What a weekend! To say that I am “inspired” is an understatement. My weekend was eye opening, life changing. . and dare I say epic? So now that I have all of your attention and curiosity, let me take a moment and tell you a little bit more about what I did this weekend and then we will get to how it has impacted my life.
Over the weekend I spent my time at a hero’s convention. No, it was not an anime convention or anything of the sorts. It was a conference geared towards changing lives. At The Hero Round Table convention I was given the information to learn what a true hero is and the tools to actually go out and act heroically. The conference was held near Flint, MI but brought in names from around the globe. I was able to hear amazing people speak about what they are doing to make a change, such as Phil Zimbardo, Ethan King and more, and then afterward go out into the halls and get to know them. . shake their hands. . hug them. I learned that they are real people. They are just like me, but they decided to stand up when others sat down. They decided to take action when others just walked on by.
At first this was conflicting internally for me. How could I be heroic? I am not special. I don’t really even think I am that good of a person most of the time. I have responsibility in my home as a mother. Yada Yada Yada. My “excuses” could really go on and on if I let them. However at one point, and I am not exactly sure when this point was, but my thoughts began to change. Hey, so I’m not special. . ok. . I’m not sure any of these speaker have something in them that makes them categorically “special”. I don’t consider myself a good person. I’m not sure being “good” to begin with is really a requirement. I have responsibilities at home as a mother. Yes, I do. But I also have time. Being a stay at home mom could be one of the greatest gifts I am given because while I do have many time consuming tasks each day I also have the ability to shuffle these tasks around and make time to do what I please. I have children. . . what better of a reason to make a difference is this? What better of an opportunity is this than to teach my children an amazing lesson that they currently are not going to learn in school? I have a blog, which reaches over 17,000 people a month and I choose to talk about how to prepare dinner 98% of the time?!? Why until now I have I done NOTHING.
So yeah. .I am a little embarrassed and rightfully so. I was like a programmed drone walking through life ignoring the suffering and looking the other way when things were uncomfortable. I was in the mindset that other peoples suffering is “really not my business”. However, I was wrong. One of the lessons I was taught at the conference is really the most simple and that is to act the way you would want others to act if it were you. If you were the one being pushed around, hurt, belittled. What would you want someone else to do to help you? The most impacting moment of this conference was a video that showed a two year old girl get run over by a car and for hours everyone in the streets just walked on by her. . sometimes within inches of her. . and did nothing. They didn’t want to get their hands dirty is someone elses’ business. Wow, right? How would you act? I know we would all like to say “I would do something!” at least that is what I think of myself. But what about less extreme cases? A girl at work or school is being ridiculed, teased. . emotionally run over. Do we walk on by or do you say something?
I believe that we all have it in us to be good. I want to believe, for my childrens’ sake, that we can change the worlds perspective. Yes, I am just a mom who writes a little blog but I believe I can do something. While I would love to sit here and tell you my elaborate plans to change the world, I can’t. I don’t have any plans yet. . but people don’t do amazing things by having “plans”, they have actions.
From a bloggers standpoint and also from a mothers, I am extremely curious what it takes to raise compassionate, giving children. I am hoping to get in touch with the parents of the younger speakers that I listened to this weekend and see what advice they could offer to us. What did they do differently? How did they have the courage to help their child pursue their dreams of being heroic instead of just saying “Oh sweetie, you have such a good heart” and letting their child’s dream fall to the side?
Yes, my weekend was amazing and I hope that if you are able to attend next years conference that you will. Each day we write our own life story. . what do you want yours to say?
I hope that you will join us in these conversations in the future.