Wow, being a mom (parent) is really hard work. Sometimes I just want my mommy to take care of everything for me like she did when I was a kid. I can remember when I was younger I never had to worry about anything. If I was sick, I didn’t worry. My mom always kept her cool and made me feel like it was no big deal although I am sure she was panicking on the inside. How did she do that? Here I am, a mother facing sick children and feeling like the world is ending. Do my children see the anxiety I feel inside or do I too have a “poker face” about the reality of the problem like my mother did? I cant tell. How do I learn how to make the right decisions and be a pillar of strength for my children?
This week our household has seen its share of trials. It seems like its been one thing after another. The worst part is when you have to see your children in pain. No one ever prepares you for that.
It is amazing what being a mother does to you. Not only do you feel emotions of your own, you now also feel the emotions of your children and every other child in the world. When you read in the paper or see on the news a child that has been hurt, you feel that child’s pain. When you are at the park and a child gets hurt and cries, you feel that child’s pain too. How on earth can we be strong enough to process all of these emotions on a daily basis plus our own? How do you not worry?
Someone once told me that if you worry that you aren’t doing a good enough job as a mother, it just means that you care. If you didn’t care about your kids, you wouldn’t worry.
That statement has really hit home with me and I think about it often. I may not feel that I am as strong as a parent as my mom was, but in reality, she probably didn’t feel very strong back then either. No parent is perfect, but a good parent tries. A good parent worries that they aren’t doing a good enough job and then tries to do better everyday. A good parent feels their children’s pain and willingly takes it all upon themselves. I will gladly allow all the weight of my kids worry on my shoulders if it meant they felt safe.
To end this post I really just want to encourage all the other momma’s (and daddy’s) out there who struggle with the feelings that they aren’t doing a good enough job as a parent that you are doing a great job! You care and love your kids and that is what matters. There is no manual for parenthood and no two kids are the same. Being a parent is a really tough job. Give yourself some credit. Just remember that you are trying and you are doing a great job because you care.
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